Time, Grateful, Thanksgiving.

Keywords for this time of the year, when we go the extra mile and help out those that we love.  No one gets to age 70+ without accumulating some great stories, anecdotes and wisdom. If you have the chance to see elderly relatives, now’s the time to ask questions. You’ll be surprised and amazed with what you learn and they’ll be happy to see that you’re interested.

On a personal note, I have a family member that was diagnosed with cancer last year. The Holidays are officially here and this could be her last.  That said, I am going to embrace this holiday session with a positive mindset and have a greater appreciation for staying in my present.  I savor each moment that I am with her.  My intentional thought is, “I will enjoy each moment of Thanksgiving”.

It is very easy for us to get caught up with the frustrations and overwhelming emotions of the Holidays.  We are adding more things to our overloaded lists and errands.  Our inner chatter is in overdrive, reminding us of all of the negative reminders about our relatives, that we would like to forget! DON’T BUY IN!

Stay in the here and now.  Thanksgiving 2017 only comes around once.

Here are six techniques that I use to reduce Holiday stress before the Holidays –

Self-Care is essential this time of the year.  What are you doing for yourself?  WE often put ourselves at the bottom of the To Do List.  Make a change this year, put your name at the top.  Schedule some “Me” time.  Take a 20-minute walk, a hot bath or a car ride alone.

Make a list of what relaxes you and gives you a calming effect.  Schedule a massage or a beauty treatment.  Go to Target and buy yourself a face mask treatment.  Close your bedroom door and sit quietly for 20 minutes, with your mask.  You will feel more peaceful and have a glow.

Arrange a date night or a pre-holiday girl’s night out.  Take in a movie, a glass of wine, or just play a few board games.  Eat chocolate.  Your dopamine will love you!

Remember the point of Thanksgiving!  It’s to be THANKFUL.  Start your morning, writing three things that you are grateful for.  This will send. positive vibes with you the entire day.  Don’t sent yourself up with unrealistic expectations.  The day is for sharing and enjoying.  Leave your assumptions and expectations at HOME.

If you start feeling stressed.  Walk away and take three long, deep, grounding, breaths.  Remember this is just ONE day of the year.   Make the best of your day.  Be thankful and giving.  Give someone a hug who does not expect one!

If a family member is stressing you out, smile and tell them you can have a follow-up discussion, AFTER the holiday. It’s a great day for food, company and feeling grateful.  Take care of yourself be present and happy that you’re spending time together.

Time is the most precious gift.

Happy almost Thanksgiving! Gobble Gobble !

 

Author of “Lost, Found, & Rewired: Mind Tools that Shift You From Stressed and Frazzled to Calm and Vital” I educate people on how the brain works and how you can get it to work for you.